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Domestic Violence Against Men

For decades there has been proof that women have regularly attacked men behind the closed doors of the home. With feminism now in rapid decline the true facts are emerging.

This article by DAVID HUGHES has opened many eyes.

If you want to find an example of ultra-successful brainwashing of the public by the media, you need look no further than the subject of domestic violence; though I have to admit that child abuse runs it a close second. If you ask the man-in-the-street what he thinks domestic violence is, he will probably tell you that it is men attacking women within the family. If you further ask him why he thinks this, he will tell you that he has heard it many times in TV news broadcasts, read about it in newspapers and magazines and has seen adverts about it on television.
Exactly! In a word he has been brainwashed and, sadly, he is by no means alone; he is in the company of his wife, his neighbours, his children’s teachers, his bank manager and countless politicians. They are all totally ignorant of the true facts about domestic violence. So where can these poor beleaguered souls discover the truth about this important problem which constantly batters their ears and eyeballs? The sad answer is, it’s all around them if only they use their eyes and their ears.

In January 1999 the UK Government’s Home Office published the results of a survey into domestic violence. It was the biggest ever carried out anywhere in the world and involved more than 10,000 men and women. It was called Study 191 and it stated, quite categorically, that 4.2% of men and 4.2% of women perpetrate the crime of domestic violence. In other words they had discovered that men and women are equally violent.

Surprised? Don’t be. It’s nothing new and to my knowledge (and to anyone else’s who has researched the matter) it has been known for at least 30 years.

The persistent claim that the overwhelming majority of victims of domestic violence are women is not supported by any impartial research, either in the UK or elsewhere. The results of all reputable gender-neutral studies of domestic violence in couple relationships, published to date, indicate that there is an almost equal numerical culpability between men and women.

We hear much today about the need for women’s refuges where all those women who are ‘regularly’ beaten up by men can flee with their children. The first such refuge in this country (indeed in the world) was opened by Erin Pizzey in London, back in 1971. She was a feminist and thought that women needed to be helped. But in her book Prone to Violence, published in 1982, she stated that, of the first 100 women who entered that refuge, 64 of them were as violent, or more violent, than the men they were allegedly running away from.
So with this evidence available for over 20 years, why are the public and the politicians so ignorant of it? The simple answer is: the book was censored. Erin Pizzey received death threats from feminists in the UK who, at that time, were riding on the crest of a powerful wave, and Erin had to leave the country.
I first heard about the book eight years ago so I decided to buy a copy. I was told that it was out of print. I decided to try the massive Internet booksellers Amazon who boasted that they could supply any book. When I visited their site I asked for the titles of all the books written by Erin Pizzey (she’s written about 12). Down scrolled a list of all her books - all except Prone to Violence. Strange! Are you now thinking the unthinkable, that book censorship is alive and well in the UK? You are so right!
Having failed to buy a copy, I decided to borrow one. I tried my local library but they told me that they did not have a copy. I therefore filled in the necessary card, and paid the fee, for them to borrow a copy from another library in the UK. I was eventually informed that there was not a single copy of the book in any library in the country. Fortunately, having had experience in the publishing business, I knew that a copy of every book published in the UK has to be sent, free, to the National Library, by the publisher. I told my library this and asked them to borrow a copy from them. They did, and I was eventually able to read the book. A year or so later, Prone to Violence was published on the Internet. The cenosrship had eventually failed and now anyone can download the entire book free.

Now that governments and other agencies can no longer censor books which appear on the internet, does it surprise you that we constantly hear of how much “damage” merely being on the Internet does to children? Increasingly politicians and other censorship angents are trying to take some sort of control of the Internet no matter how feeble the reason. Freedom to think is a constant threat to politicians.
This complete censorship of domestic violence has now been replaced by a one-sided presentation of the “facts” of domestic violence with the feminist spin machine presenting carefully selected “facts” to present to the public in an effort to suggest that domestic violence is a sex issue, and not showing it in its true colours as a social issue.
Violence in couple relationships has always existed. Some examples of male victims include Abraham Lincoln, and more recently, Humphrey Bogart and John Wayne, to name but a few. But do you think any of these gentlemen would want it noised abroad that they were attacked by their wives? I hardly think so. Just imagine what such publicity would have done to their macho images. And here we have a genuine problem but one which is slowly being solved.
Men don’t like to admit that they are attacked by their wives or girlfriends; hence they are loathe to admit it. In the UK the men’s civil rights charity, ManKind, has over the past year, set up helplines for male victims all over the country. How many calls do they get? One of the men who mans one of the lines recently told me that he gets on average 15 every day; and that’s only in one area of the south of England.

I know four men who have suffered domestic violence at the hands of their wives. The first woke up one morning to find his wife sitting on the side of his bed, striking matches and throwing them on the sheets in an effort to set him alight, another told me of the time he was left lying injured and bleeding on the floor of his kitchen, after being attacked by his wife, and when the police arrived, they stepped over him to go to his wife to ask if she was all right. A third man had his skull and several ribs fractured by his wife using an iron bar, but still stayed with her until the day she put crushed glass in his dinner. When blood started pouring out of his mouth, he realised it was time to move out. A fourth stands at six feet four, is a black belt in karate and his wife constantly bombards him with verbal abuse. He will not hit her because he knows very well that if he does the police will immediately arrest him and make him leave his home.

If you wish to delve further into the truth about domestic violence, I suggest you obtain a copy of The A to Z of D.V. complied by Martin S Fiebert, Ph.D. of the Department of Psychology, California State University. This is a collection of 95 scholarly investigations, 79 empirical studies and 16 reviews and analyses, covering over 60,000 case studies. Together, this massive volume of evidence proves beyond doubt that women are as physically aggressive, if not more so, in relationships with their spouses than men. All this is freely available on the Internet.

The majority of male victims feel that the police and social agencies are generally unsympathetic to their plight and in some cases antagonistic. A Dispatches programme, broadcast in the UK on 7th January 1999 reported on the experiences of 100 male victims of domestic violence and found that: 30% had been attacked while asleep; 25% had been kicked in the genitals; 25% of the male victims had themselves been arrested after seeking police help, and 89% felt that the police had not taken their complaints seriously. Only 7% of the female assailants had been arrested and none was subsequently charged.

Despite the huge body of research I have referred to above, the assumption that women are always the victims and men the victimisers still largely underpins government and public policy and is the reason for giving many millioins of pounds of public money to women’s groups and refuges every year, and none to help male victims. There are over 445 refuges for “battered” women in England and Wales where women can flee and take their children. At the moment, in the UK there are just two refuges for men, one opened in December 2003 and the other, which is the only one exclusively for men, in January 2004.

Given the foregoing, it is not surprising that men do not report instances of domestic violence against them, and it is this problem that the UK men’s rights charity ManKind is now busy addressing. Their DV posters are being increasingly seen in police stations, libraries and on notice-boards as more and more people are becoming aware of the truth of the situation and are willing to help. One of the posters shows a man with an injured face bearing the caption, “The ‘garage door’ he bumped into last night was female.” This is an attempt to urge men to report domestic violence as readily as women do. The latest surveys show that women are five times more likely than men to report domestic violence against them.

Domestic violence is not a sex issue, it is a social issue, and until both sides of the problem are acknowledged and addressed by those who claim to be concerned about the matter, no cure will be found.


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LET'S LOOK AT THE TRUTH ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

a report by

SAM AND BUNNY SEWELL


The writers who generated this report have been working to end domestic violence for over a decade. One of them is an original incorporator of their local abuse shelter. They are also members of the 'Century Club', those who contribute over $100 to the local women's shelter. They support the services they provide to victims.
However, they believe that much of the women's shelter movement is seriously misinformed about the causes and scope of the domestic violence problem.
It is certainly not going to be solved by feminists who just bury their heads in the sand and pretend that half of it does not exist.

THE MISUNDERSTANDING of the domestic violence issue is so extensive that city and county governments, the courts, law enforcement, prosecutors' offices, mental health clinics, and other tax supported agencies are now structuring programmes based on feminist propaganda rather than on responsible scientific studies.
One of the most pervasive myths of our society is that domestic violence is something men do to women. Solid scientific research reveals that domestic violence is something women do to men more frequently than men do to women.
While it is true that men account for most violence outside the home, women instigate most domestic violence and they injure men more frequently and more severely.
 
The Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire, under grants from the National Institute of Mental Health, recently finished the last of three national studies on domestic violence. The first two studies revealed results similar to the latest study. Anyone who would like a copy of it may order it from the University of New Hampshire (ask for Document V55). The data tape and documentation of the 1975 and 1985 studies are available from the Interuniversity Consortium For Political and Social Research at the University of Michingan.
Original data is also available on CD-ROM from Sociometrics, Inc. in Palo Alto, CA.

The average results in the 'severe assault' category are reported below:
Wives report they have been severely assaulted by husband 22 per 1000

Wives report they have severely assaulted husband 59 per 1000

 

Husbands report they have been severely assaulted by wives 32 per 1000

Husbands report they have severely assaulted wives 18 per 1000

 

Husbands & wives both report wife has been assaulted 20 per 1000

Husbands & wives both report husband has been assaulted 44 per 1000

 

There are dozens of other studies that reveal similar findings. For instance:

 

* Women are three times more likely than men to use weapons in domestic violence.

* Women initiate most incidents of domestic violence.

* Women commit most child abuse and elder abuse.

* Women hit their male children more frequently and more severely than they hit their female children.

* Women commit most child murders and 64% of their victims are male children.

* When women murder adults, the majority of their victims are men.

* Women commit 50% of spousal murders.

* Eighty-two per cent of all people have their first experience of violence at the hands of a woman.


Wives report they have been severely assaulted by husband 22 per 1000

Wives report they have severely assaulted husband 59 per 1000

Husbands report they have been severely assaulted by wives 32 per 1000

Husbands report they have severely assaulted wives 18 per 1000

Husbands & wives both report wife has been assaulted 20 per 1000

Husbands & wives both report husband has been assaulted 44 per 1000

 

There are dozens of other studies that reveal similar findings. For instance:

* Women are three times more likely than men to use weapons in domestic violence.

* Women initiate most incidents of domestic violence.

* Women commit most child abuse and elder abuse.

* Women hit their male children more frequently and more severely than they hit their female children.

* Women commit most child murders and 64% of their victims are male children.

* When women murder adults, the majority of their victims are men.

* Women commit 50% of spousal murders.

* Eighty-two per cent of all people have their first experience of violence at the hands of a woman.


There is so much confusion about whom to believe in the debate about domestic violence. On one side we have women's shelter advocates and feminists who rely on law enforcement statistics. On the other side we have social scientists who rely on scientifically structured studies.
Unfortunately, the results of scientific studies do not receive media attention. America's press is seemingly more interested in political correctness rather than scientific accuracy. Therefore the public perception, and the perception of many well intentioned domestic violence activists, is radically skewed away from the more balanced perception of social scientists.
The typical response of the abuse shelter feminists upon first hearing the results of the scientific studies is to 'shoot the messenger'. You can almost hear their minds snap closed. On the other hand, abuse shelter personnel who have not accepted the feminist 'party line' are grateful to have accurate information upon which to implement rational programmes for prevention, intervention, and treatment of abusers and their victims.
What is happening in the abuse shelter in your community?
 
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN OTHER COUNTRIES
We think it is important to note that there have been the same kind of studies done in many countries. There is cross cultural verification that women are more violent than men in domestic settings. When behaviour has cross- cultural verification it means that it is part of human nature rather than a result of cultural conditioning. Females are most often the perpetrators of domestic violence in all cultures that have been studied so far. That leads many professionals to conclude that there is something biological about violent females in family situations.
Researchers are now exploring the role of the 'territorial imperative' as a factor in women's violence against men. Women see the home as their territory. Like many other species on the planet, we humans will ignore size difference when we experience conflict on our own territory. So, the scientific results that reveal the violence of American women are not unique to our culture, and do not indicate a special pathology among American women. World wide, women are more violent than men in domestic settings.
Below is a summary of the most recent and significant studies we could find about domestic violence in Canada. There were two waves of data collection. The first was done in 1990; the second was finished in 1992.
The study was done by 'Ms' Reena Sommer, a research associate with the Manitoba Centre for Health Policy and Evaluation. We emphasise the 'Ms' to call attention to the fact that scientific studies of DV are dominated by female social scientists. Someone mentioned that the figures might reveal a gender bias as if all scientists are male. In this field, many of the recognised experts are women.


FEMALE VS. MALE PERPETRATED VIOLENCE AS A PERCENTAGE OF ALL RESPONDENTS:

% of females % of males
Minor violence
threw an object (not at partner) 23.6 15.8
threaten to throw object 14.9 7.3
threw object at partner 16.2 4.6
pushed or grabbed 19.8 17.2
 
Severe violence
slapped, punched, kicked 15.8 7.3
used weapon 3.1 0.9

 

A survey of couples in Calgary, Canada, found that the rate of severe husband-to-wife violence was 4.8%, while severe wife-to-husband violence was 10%. (Brinkerhoff & Lupri, Canadian Journal of Sociology, 13:4 [1989])


THE PROPAGANDA PROBLEM AND THE SCIENTIFIC SOLUTION

Abuse shelter advocates and feminists have severely distorted the DV picture and deliberately produce fraudulent statistics and disinformation. Even when they quote well grounded statistics, they misuse the information.

Here is an example: one of the favourite statistics quoted by abuse shelter advocates is that a woman is the victim of domestic violence every 15 seconds. This statistic is deduced from a well conducted piece of research which was published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, a well respected professional journal of marriage and family therapists. The Abuse Shelter advocates arrived at this figure by using one of the conclusions from this study, i.e. 1.8 million women suffer an assault from a husband or boyfriend per year.

What abuse shelter advocates always ignore is another finding of the same study, i.e. 2 million men are assaulted by a wife or girl friend per year, which translates as, a man is the victim of domestic violence every 14 seconds.

This is typical of the widespread deception practised by abuse shelter advocates. America's press establishment is a party to this deception and must share the blame for exacerbating the DV problem by perpetuating a false diagnosis.

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BBC survey on domestic violence - 2003

This survey by the BBC proves, yet again, that as many men as women suffer domestic violence. This makes the total of surveys world wide - approx. 123 - come to the same conclusions. How many more times does this parity between men and women have to be proved before men get the same resources and provision of care as women?

The tired old lie that 95% of victims of DV are female is once again destroyed.

It seems rather strange that, having regard to the figures below, so many news features and other programmes broadcast by the BBC still give the impression that it is only women who suffer from domestic violence.


QUESTION 1 In any relationship you have had - either when married or living with a partner - have you ever been involved in any incident of domestic fighting, hitting, punching, kicking or having sex against the will of one partner?

All Men Women. (If your browser throws these columns around, please note that the first figure is "All", the second is "Men" and the third is "Women".)

Yes 24% 21% 27%
No 61% 62% 61%
Not applicable 12% 5% 9%
Refused 2% 2% 2%


QUESTION 2 While married to someone or living with a partner, have any of the following things ever happened? (Base: 896)
All Men Women
Name calling/derogatory personal comments

44% 44% 44%

Any slap, punch, kicking or hitting (even once)
22% 19% 24%

Slapping, punching, kicking or hitting requiring medical Attention 17% 5% 10%
Having sex against the will of one partner
5% 2% 8%

None of the above
50% 50% 51%

Refused 2% 2% 1%

QUESTION 3 Which of the following would you accept from someone you loved? And what would make you want to end the relationship or report your partner to the police?
Occasional or one-off name calling or derogatory personal comments

All Men Women
Accept it 69% 73% 66%
End relationship 21% 18% 23%
Don't know 10% 8% 12%

Regular name calling
Accept it 27% 32% 22%
End relationship 58% 55% 62%
Don't know 15% 13% 16%

Any slap, punch, kick, hitting, even once
Accept it 24% 28% 20%
End relationship 64% 58% 69%
Don't know 12% 14% 11%

Any slap, punch, kick or hitting, more than once
Accept it 8% 11% 5%

End relationship 80% 75% 85%
Don't know 12% 14% 11%

Any slap, punch, kick or hitting, on a regular or frequent basis
Accept it 3% 4% 2%

End relationship 87% 85% 89%
Don't know 11% 12% 9%

Any slapping, punching, kicking or hitting requiring medical attention
Accept it 2% 2% 1%

End relationship 89% 87% 90%
Don't know 10% 11% 8%
Having sex against the will of one partner, just once
Accept it 10% 11% 10%

And relationship 77% 76% 79%
Don't know 12% 13% 11%


Having sex against the will
of one partner, more than once
All Men Women

Accept it 5% 5% 4%

End relationship 83% 82% 85%
Don't know 12% 13% 11%

Having sex against the will of one partner, regularly or frequently
Accept it 2% 2% 2%

End relationship 87% 85% 89%
Don't know 11% 13% 9%


QUESTION 4 Domestic violence (fighting, hitting, punching, kicking, and having sex against the will of one partner) is not acceptable except if one partner has been unfaithful.

Agree 30% 30% 31%
Disagree 64% 62% 65%
Don't know 6% 8% 4%


These things are not acceptable unless one person has nagged the other.

Agree 27% 28% 25%
Disagree 67% 64% 69%
Don't know 7% 8% 5%
These things are not acceptable under any circumstances.

Agree 60% 57% 63%
Disagree 24% 27% 22%
Don't know 16% 16% 15%

Such things happen behind closed doors, and are for the partners to sort out.

Agree 49% 53% 45%
Disagree 44% 38% 49%
Don't know 7% 8% 6%

The police should always be called in such cases Agree 29% 26% 32%
Disagree 62% 64% 60%
Don't know 8% 9% 7%


QUESTION 5 People who hit their partners should lose the right to see their children.

Agree 39% 36% 42%
Disagree 51% 53% 49%
Don't know 10% 11% 10%

QUESTION 6 Information about people who have hit their partners should be shared by police and social services.
Agree 62% 60% 64%
Disagree 29% 31% 26%
Don't know 9% 9% 10%


QUESTION 7 People who kill or maim a partner who has abused them should not be prosecuted.

Agree 30% 30% 30%
Disagree 61% 60% 62%
Don't know 9% 10% 9%


QUESTION 8 Some people say that in some circumstances incidents of domestic violence can be forgiven. Do you agree or disagree?
Agree
30% 35% 26%
Disagree 47% 43% 52%
Don't know 23% 23% 23%

QUESTION 9 Has any friend or acquaintance been involved in an incident of domestic fighting, hitting, punching, kicking or having sex against the will of one of the partners?

Yes 37% 32% 42%
No 61% 65% 56%
Refused 2% 3% 2%

QUESTION 10 If so, did you recommend that the person went to the police, or did you urge them not to go? (Base: 375)

Go to police 41% 28% 50%
Don't go 6% 10% 3%
No advice either way 60% 44% 50%
Refused 3% 2% 3%

QUESTION 11 Suppose you became aware that someone was kicking and mistreating their dog...do you think you would intervene/call the RSPCA or the police?

Yes 78% 74% 81%
No 8% 9% 6%
Don't know 15% 17% 12%

QUESTION 12 Suppose you became aware that someone was kicking and mistreating their partner...do you think you would intervene or call the police?

Yes 53% 53% 53%
No 18% 20% 17%
Don't know 29% 27

Julie Hayman Producer, BBC TV News Planning
Room 1624 BBC Television Centre
020 8624 9141 :07764 335904

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