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Hi, I am Joan - my mother died from breast cancer when I was just nine. I lived with my father after that, when I lived with my mother I remember her going to hospital. I remember walking in on her once and I seen she was missing one side of her breast, and I heard the words echoed in my mind when you hear your family talk about cancer, its cancer, its cancer its what? - I heard in my brain. She was a lovely woman and some say I grew up to look like her, she loved to sing and hum and I do that too now, as most of my friends know I love to sing.
My mom was diagnosed with cancer when she was 41 years old, and she had two mastectomies done, and I remember seeing those pads she put in her bra to replace the breasts she had lost. One day when I was at school; my sister came into school to come get us and we had to run home quick cause mom wanted to see us, when we got home we were just about to leave out the door when we got the call, the call gosh! I will never forget the call, from my Moms best friend saying that my mom had passed away, so I didn't even get to see her before she left us. I remember that day like it was yesterday, after we got the call we all gathered in a circle and cried for her, and the church gave us some pretty flowers and baskets. I got a book, I got that book till this day, it is called Treasures of Comfort
, and some days I open it up to read it and think of my mom I lost on December 18th 1972.
I will treasure that book forever, it's been my lifeline, god has really been with me those years to give me strength, I remember in school after mom passed, I almost flunked a grade cause I was so sick to my stomach all the time, and I will never forget the teacher who helped me so I would not flunk, thanks to Mrs Chasteen, and the ironic thing about that woman, is she looked like my mother :) and I always liked that about her. My dad said no funeral will be done for my mother. My mom had decided to give her body to science so someone can find out what cancer is all about and try to destroy it before it would hurt anyone else. I am very proud of my mom to do this wonderful thing for people, yet the selfish part of me never seen her face again, and I always wished she would have had a funeral so I could of said goodbye
to her, but I would not be so selfish. I would rather she did what she did to help people with cancer, and we are very, very proud of her for this thing she did. I am hoping that she helped many friends and families that have cancer. I always wonder how many people in this world she has saved with the unselfish thing she did. Mommy, I love you and I know you are one of the angels that watches me day and night, big hugssssssssss mommy I got a bear for you too. Twiggy my good friend sent me a 2 bears one for me and one for hubby, they are called sojourn bears, and they are for people who have cancer and their families, and friends, I named one of the bears Annella after my mother. Mom is not the only one in our family that died from cancer,
My uncle jack did also, I didn't know much about my uncle, cause after mom died it didn't seem like we kept in touch with family much. I just found out like one year or so ago that my uncle had died from cancer also, my mothers brother, but he died from lung cancer. At that time I was meeting people with cancer at cancer chat in Yahoo, and talking to them and learning about it. I also made many friends who have it or a family member that has it, this is a terrible disease and I pray to god some day it will be cured, that nobody on this earth will have cancer ever again.
I also lost some good friends to this dreadful disease, Johnny you will always be in my heart, and I miss you so much I ball up with tears when I think about you. Pbunda (from Yahoo Cancer Chat) I loved you so much you always made me smile and always had a good laugh together. Cleopat (from Yahoo Cancer Chat) I think about you a lot and that hat you had on your head lol, you were a clown, and bonz I only know you a short time hon', but you really touched my heart, and to others may you rest in peace.
I am writing this for my good friend pizzy_boy
, but I am also writing this for our chat room. I found out many people do not know about our room, their we laugh, we cry we hug, we kiss each others woes away, and I am a better person for knowing all of them. I thank god I started to go there, because I felt compelled, I wanted to make a difference in peoples lives, and I learned a whole lot about cancer that I never knew. So if you have friends, or family with this disease look us up, we will be there for you too.