Psycho-sexual therapy

The majority of people at some time in their lives experience some sort
of sexual difficulty. This is contrary to what most people believe. Because
sex isn't easy to talk about, people assume they are the only ones with a
problem, tend not to talk about it, and so feel isolated.

Sue and Barbara are trained, fully qualified sex therapists, and are very
used to talking about sexual problems. In our experience, once you have
got over the initial hurdle of contacting a therapist, most people are very
relieved and surprised at how easily they can discuss their problems with
us.

The kinds of things that cause people to contact a sex therapist are
wide ranging, some of which are listed below…

Erectile problems.
This may be an inability to get an erection at all, or difficulty sustaining
one before or during penetration.

Premature Ejaculation … ejaculation before you would like to -
sometimes prior to intercourse, and sometimes upon penetration - feeling
you have no control or choice when ejaculation happens.

Inhibited Ejaculation … ranging from being totally unable to ejaculate
in any situation, to being able to ejaculate only with masturbation.

Loss of Desire
An increasing number of people especially men are reporting a loss of
desire for sex. This can be a result of stress, busy lifestyle, sexual boredom
and childbirth. Some medication can badly affect libido. Problems in the
general relationship also cause loss of interest in sex. Once the relationship
issues are addressed, the sexual desire usually returns.

Vaginismus … inability to have sexual intercourse because the muscles
at the entrance to the vagina go into an involuntary spasm when
penetration is attempted. This then makes penetration painful and
impossible. This is a very common problem which many women refrain
from getting help with, due to embarrassment or fear.

Dyspareunia (painful intercourse) … pain during intercourse can be
caused by many things. Because of the pain, a cycle can be set up whereby
fear of pain causes anxiety and tension, which in turn leads to more pain.
Painful intercourse can also lead to loss of desire.

Anorgasmia (unable to reach orgasm)
For some women, the inability to reach orgasm is always there, whether
it's during intercourse or masturbation. For other women, orgasm doesn't
happen during sexual intercourse, but is achieved through masturbation.
There are many causes, ranging from lack of knowledge about how the
female body works, to anxiety and an inability to "let go" and allow
orgasm to happen.

All of the above problems can be greatly helped with sex therapy, and
whatever your problem, it will be dealt with sensitively. As well as
discussing the difficulties, a sex therapist will formulate a programme of
exercises for you to do in the privacy of your own home.

We work to a strict code of ethics and guidelines set out by BASRT -
the British Association for Sexual and Relationship Therapy, (see link
to this website, below).

If you would like more information, then please don't hesitate to contact
us. We will answer any questions or concerns, and make it easy for you to
talk to us. We see couples and individuals. We accept referrals from GPs..