Helping a man change profoundly.
This is an example of Career crisis
counselling.
"Individual and/or small group
work to help people express their feelings about the crisis, decide what they
want to do and work powerfully and effectively to achieve it."
A member of the support staff of a
University was intimidating his staff and being verbally abusive. He had been
told that he must change his behaviour and that he might find some time with me
helpful. He was a very big man, an expert in martial arts and had been violent
in the past.
He was the youngest of five children
and when he did not do as he was told, he was beaten. He was quite deaf, so
often did not hear what was expected, but this was not diagnosed until he was
five years old. His protests were ignored. When I said he did not deserve to be
beaten, his eyes filled with tears. It was a great relief to tell his story. He
realised he got aggressive to avoid being hurt and this might have been
necessary then but was not necessary now. Both he and his colleagues say he is
a changed man, being gentler, much more positive and more relaxed with his
people.
I met him again recently two years after the four half-day sessions we had and the changes have stuck.
If you would like to discuss any this work further, or meet, please call Nick Heap on +44 (0)1707 886553 or email info@nickheap.co.uk