
When you hear of a child with cancer your heart immediately
goes out to them and you can't help but feel sorry for them.
Facing the mortality of your child has to be the worst experience
any parent faces. As a parent of a child with cancer, the emotions you
feel are like a ride on an emotional roller coaster. The bad times are
likened to an extended bereavement and the good times are compounded, with
joy and sadness at the same time. Your emotional state is somewhat heightened
to the point of being hyper sensitive and extremely protective.
However wrong it may be, questions like "why should this
happen to her when there are villains out there who never have anything
wrong with them." Pass through your mind far too frequently. The only way
to get through the emotional roller coaster is to think positive and be
positive about the whole situation. (This is easier said than done.)
We are told by the experts, childhood cancers are easier
to cure than adult cancers, although this is some consolation in the early
days, it is short lived, when you learn more about the cancer you have
and the cocktail of drugs needed to cure the disease. With each drug administered
you have to deal with all the potential side affects, the range of which
is frightening at best but terrifying in general.
The effects of cancer on the family will test it's relationship
to the limit, some families won't make it but the ones that do, I believe
come out stronger for the experience. The most important piece of advice
I can offer any family in this situation is to be honest with each other.
And not to underestimate the child's understanding of the situation.
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