How To Be Good
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Nick Hornby

I read About A Boy, High Fidelity and Fever Pitch, and enjoyed the film version of the first two, less so of the third. Hornby’s style of writing and thematic interests were called the ‘male confessional’; although I don’t see that as an accurate description now, it did nonetheless help to define this relatively new sub-genre, the literary New Man. Masculine but not brutish and macho, such that it appealed to female readers as well as male. Sensitive but not wimpy, effeminate and/or homosexual, showing that men have feelings too. As a female friend once said about a female writer, Hornby reveals “trade secrets” about masculinity although some of these, like cataloguing life in terms of football or popular music, were already well known.

How To Be Good was notable for the female narration written by the male writer. Critics questioned whether or not Hornby had succeeded; the consensus seemed to be that he had. Hornby is light reading, but not unsophisticated. His themes are complex, funny and thoroughly contemporary, covering some of the same ground as fellow storyteller Tony Parsons, but with more subtlety and skill.

To begin with, I found myself disliking Katie Carr. Husband David is clearly a difficult person to be married to: grumpy, cynical and humourless, arguably responsible for their marital malaise while Katie battles with queues of intransigently sick patients. But there are two viewpoints in every relationship and you only see Katie’s view of David, not how he feels about their problems, and it looks like Katie is only interested in her perceptions. I think women tend to be more emotionally fluent than most men, more skilled at relationships and their psychological depths, and in that respect Katie is an emblem for disappointed sisterhood. You align yourself with her and feel you are meant to do so, but what about David’s viewpoint? Irascible cynic he may be, but how does he feel about Katie? She could probably be portrayed as demanding, complaining, and unsupportive, but you only ever see her in the first person looking outwards. She has an affair, which is more usually a complaint levied against men, when women are understandably hurt, angry and outraged. But you see David as responsible for this, Katie as the victim of his difficult personality.

Their marriage is not quite a role reversal i.e. Katie going out to work while David is the house-husband, but the way his literary/critical life is described makes you feel he does not do ‘proper work’. This is a typically working class attitude, like the way DH Lawrence’s father treated the poetic and literary son, who also painted when he was growing up. It wasn’t man’s work, and he should have been down the mines like his father and the rest of the male community. Hornby presumably has some experience of this in his own working class, Arsenal supporting background. We can thus ascribe some of this novel to autobiographical experience. Paradoxically, his creation of the Katie character shows a sensitive appreciation of the female disposition while he depicts her as the authoritative i.e. excluding voice. But within the narrative – without reaching out to further dimensions of authorship and Hornby himself – there are questions to be raised regarding who we sympathise with. It’s clear who we are supposed to align ourselves with, but on reflection it is not straightforward. As any Relate counsellor would tell you (presumably), relationships are two-way and cannot be understood only from one viewpoint.

Katie’s viewpoint is thus a narrative device, acceptable as such, making the critic’s question ‘does Hornby do a successful woman’ central to the success of this novel. I believe he is successful, that political or literary objections are unfounded, and that this work raises interesting questions on levels of narrative, authorship, and wider cultural pattern.

However I said Hornby is ‘light’, and he seeks to entertain rather than explore politics or polemic. His characters are cleverly drawn, but likeable because we recognise their foibles, frustrations and battered aspirations, rather than their political credibility. When David meets and then installs DJ GoodNews into their home, we enter clearly comical terrain and have no problem identifying with Katie’s exasperation. David’s conversion to eco-spiritual activist is sanctimonious and effectively the second chapter – arguably – of his failure to understand his wife. Suddenly considerate and understanding, his benign acceptance of her affair may be unhelpful; you could argue that it was the equivalent to a suicidal cry for help, a symptom of underlying problems and an answer which she actually does not want herself. But remember this is Hornby-land, comic and entertaining, and we don’t take it that seriously. The meeting between Stephen and David, with Katie as well, is one of the comic highlights of the novel with the memorable references to an art approach to sex and a scientific approach, ascribed to her lover and husband respectively (91). We might enjoy art but science is reliable, familiar, and requires less work after a tiring day: push here, stroke there, and the job is done. David is of course the cuckold here, Katie feels “At this precise moment I’m happy to be in a marriage, to be two against one, to combine my partner against this destructive and dangerous outsider with whom I happen to have had sex” (90), and her husband is suddenly a clearly more attractive prospect; it really was no more than a cry for help, and David manages to be, in her eyes, her knight in shining armour albeit rather unconventionally. She wants to make him feel better, but realises that “referring to my sexual relationship with Stephen, even given its relative failure, is not the way to do it” (91).

How To Be Good is fundamentally a comedy of the heart, but played out in the arena of sexual politics and contemporary, world-weary disappointment: “We made love that night, our first time for ages. We both agree afterwards that it’s nice to feel some warmth, even if that warmth is located in the genitalia rather than the soul. But maybe something will catch” (225). The title refers to Katie’s continuing need to feel she is not a bad but a good person, evidenced, she feels, in her daily NHS toils. I suspect this is itself a vaguely female concern more than male, when women are biologically and culturally ascribed the role of mother/caretaker. Ironically, when David adopts the DJ GoodNews social agenda and is arguably thoroughly good, he becomes other-worldly and irritating. GoodNews is one of the weaker characters, i.e. one dimensional, stereotyped and implausible, but this is not a major literary flaw since he is peripheral to the central concerns: first, the unhappy life of Katie Carr, and second, what this revolves around, i.e. husband David. GoodNews is a slapstick narrative invention, ostensibly the admirable moral outlook to which Katie aspires, but which in practice is absurd and ungrounded in real life struggle.

How To Be Good is a sophisticated chuckle, an ‘I know just how you feel’ delight, which shows contemporary complex life in it’s multi-dimensional reality. Along the way there are some subtle and interesting questions to consider, in relation to the characterisation of Katie Carr as dreamt up by Nick Hornby. My one uncertainty is not whether Hornby is a clever and witty writer, but whether women think this, and enjoyed this book. I do not think that is the defining question that Hornby has to account for, because this is a delightful novel in a more general sense. But because of its narrative structure and primary characterisation, it is an obvious question to ask: Hornby, a man, has written a story about Katie, a woman, and it is her narration that governs the story.

At the end of the novel Katie buys a book for herself: significantly, it is about Vanessa Bell, sister of Virginia A Room Of Your Own Woolf. She exults in her new discovery, the imaginative pleasures of book reading escape which most importantly is time for her, away from all the constraints and demands of her life. She concludes that her life and most lives are not "rich and beautiful", and we have to reconcile ourselves to this fact and find the small but vital compensatory pleasures. We have to put ourselves first at least some of the time, or we cannot function. The final image of Hornby's work reminded me - just - of the final image in Steinbeck's Grape of Wrath. It's not as serious, powerful, or surprising, but it has a similar message. Husband David vaguely risks his life to clear a gutter in torrentially bad London weather; Katie and her little family rally around to keep hold of him and prevent him from falling. It is an image of domestic vulnerability which is empowered by sticking together against external adversity. We live life based on small comforts rather than glamorous adventure, finding essential time to nourish ourselves and a few people to fill the emptiness. It's all there in How to Be Good, but this is a lovely comic read rather than an existential tract. And yes, as I read more I became fond of Doctor Katie Carr.