Abuse counselling in Cheadle near South Manchester
and Stockport
What is abuse?
Abuse occurs when a person violates someone else's personal boundaries. Abusers want to control and degrade their victims. There are many different types of abuse including physical, emotional, mental, sexual and verbal abuse. Another form of abuse is neglect, where parents fail to take care of their children's basic needs. Abuse can occur at home (domestic violence, rape, incest) ; in the workplace (sexual harassment, bullying) and in communities (racism, homophobia).
How can counselling help the victim?
Counselling can help you acknowledge and accept the truth of your experience
- that none of it was your fault. The impact of abuse can leave long term
emotional scars and often victims will turn to self destructive,
addictive
behaviours as a way of distracting themselves from their overwhelming
emotional pain. These addictive behaviours also reinforce negative thoughts
and beliefs and the victim can find themselves in a cycle of self loathing,
depression,
anxiety
,
self harm and shame. Counselling
can help you break these self destructive cycles as well as allowing you
to
grieve for the loss
of someone violating your boundaries.
How can counselling help the abuser?
Abusers often have
anger issues
and a need to control/have power over another person. Underneath these issues
are deep rooted insecurities, shame and low self esteem. Abusers find it
hard to take responsibility for their actions. Therapy can help you come
to terms with the consequences of your behaviour as well as addressing your
deep rooted insecurities, which may originate from childhood. Counselling
sessions can also help you learn healthy ways of expressing anger, fear
and sadness and in doing so counselling can help you break the cycle of
abuse.
